Writing an Obituary or Eulogy: Tips for Expressing Love and Remembrance

In the Philippines, honoring loved ones who have passed is deeply rooted in family, faith, and community. From extended wakes to memorial services filled with prayer and shared stories, words play an important role in remembering a life and offering comfort to those left behind. 

Writing an obituary or a eulogy during a time of grief can feel overwhelming. At the same time, it can be a meaningful way to express love, gratitude, and remembrance, helping preserve the memory of someone who mattered deeply. 

At Dearly Departed, we recognize how thoughtful words can help families honor their loved ones with dignity, compassion, and care. 

Obituary vs. Eulogy: Understanding the Difference 

An obituary is a written announcement that shares the news of a person’s passing and offers a brief summary of their life. In the Philippines, obituaries are often shared online, through community groups, or included in wake announcements to inform relatives, friends, and neighbors. 

A eulogy is a spoken tribute delivered during a funeral or memorial service. It is more personal and reflective, usually shared by a family member or close friend, and focuses on memories, values, and the impact the person had on others. 

Both serve the same purpose: honoring a life and preserving a legacy. 

Tips for Writing a Meaningful Obituary 

1. Begin with the Essential Details 

Start with the full name of the deceased, their age, date of passing, and place of residence. Some families also choose to mention the cause of death, depending on their comfort level. 

2. Share Their Life Story 

Briefly highlight important milestones such as where they were born, their career or vocation, community involvement, and the roles they cherished most in life. 

3. Recognize Family and Relationships 

Family is central to Filipino culture. Including spouses, children, grandchildren, parents, and siblings reflects the importance of these bonds. 

4. Reflect Values and Faith 

Many families choose to mention faith, service to others, or personal qualities such as kindness, generosity, or resilience. 

5. Provide Service Information 

Include details about the wake, funeral, cremation, or memorial service so friends and community members know how to pay their respects. 

Tips for Writing a Heartfelt Eulogy 

1. Speak from the Heart 

Eulogy does not need to be formal or perfect. Sincerity matters most. Speak honestly about your relationship and what your loved one meant to you. 

2. Follow a Simple Structure 

A clear structure can help during an emotional moment: 

• A brief introduction 

• Personal memories or stories 

• Lessons or values they shared 

• A loving farewell 

  
  

3. Share Personal Memories 

Stories about everyday moments, sacrifices, humor, or guidance often resonate deeply and bring comfort to listeners. 

4. Balance Emotion and Celebration 

Tears and pauses are natural. Eulogy can acknowledge grief while also celebrating a life filled with love and meaning. 

5. Keep It Brief and Focused 

Aim for about three to five minutes. This helps keep your message clear and manageable during a difficult time. 

When the Right Words Feel Hard to Find 

Grief can make writing especially difficult. Take your time, write in short drafts, and invite family members or friends to share memories. There is no single right way to write. What matters is that your words are honest and heartfelt. 

Honoring Loved Ones with Compassion 

Writing an obituary or eulogy is a deeply personal act of remembrance. Through simple, sincere words, families can honor a life with dignity and care. 

At Dearly Departed, we support Filipino families through every stage of remembrance, whether you are preparing written tributes, planning a memorial service, or seeking guidance during a difficult time. If you wish to speak with a care advisor, schedule a visit, or request information, our team is here to listen and assist, always with patience, respect, and understanding. 

Your words become part of your loved one’s lasting legacy, a reminder that love, memory, and connection endure beyond loss. 

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