Finding Light Again: Coping With Grief During the Holidays

The holidays are often portrayed as a season of joy filled with twinkling lights, shared meals, and familiar traditions. But for those grieving the loss of a loved one, this time of year can feel especially heavy. Empty seats at the table are more noticeable. Traditions that once brought comfort may now bring tears. While the world seems to celebrate, your heart may feel like it is standing still. 

If you are navigating grief during the holidays, know this first and foremost. You are not alone, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. 

Why the Holidays Can Feel Harder 

Grief does not follow a calendar, yet the holidays often intensify emotions. Memories surface more vividly, and the absence of someone deeply loved can feel undeniable. There may also be unspoken pressure to appear cheerful or “strong,” even when you are struggling inside. 

It is okay if joy and sorrow exist at the same time. It is okay if some days feel manageable and others feel overwhelming. Grief is not a weakness. It is love that continues. 

Giving Yourself Permission to Feel 

One of the most important steps in coping with holiday grief is allowing yourself to feel whatever comes up. This may include sadness, anger, numbness, or even moments of peace. 

You may choose to attend family gatherings, or you may decide to step back this year. Both choices are valid. Taking care of your emotional health is necessary, not selfish. 

Honoring Your Loved One During the Season 

For many, the idea of moving on feels uncomfortable. Instead, it can be more helpful to think about moving forward while carrying love with you. 

Here are gentle ways to honor your loved one during the holidays: 

• Light a candle in their memory 

• Share stories or look through old photos 

• Prepare a favorite dish they loved 

• Write them a letter expressing what remains unsaid

• Donate or volunteer in their honor 

  
  

At Dearly Departed, families are often reminded that remembrance does not end with a service or ceremony. Love continues through intentional and meaningful acts of memory. 

Finding Small Moments of Light 

There is no need to force happiness during the holidays. Instead, consider noticing small moments of comfort or quiet presence: 

• A quiet morning with a warm drink

• A song that brings gentle comfort 

• A kind message from someone who remembers 

• A moment of deep breathing that feels grounding 

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These moments do not erase grief, but they can exist alongside it. Healing is not about forgetting. It is about learning how to live again while holding love close. 

Lean on Support When You Need It 

Grief can feel isolating, especially during a season that emphasizes togetherness. Reaching out may feel difficult, but connection can be deeply healing. 

You may find comfort through: 

• A trusted friend or family member 

• A grief support group 

• A counselor or therapist 

• Accepting help, even in small ways 

  
  

Organizations like Dearly Departed understand that grief does not end after goodbye. Compassion, patience, and support are especially important during the holidays. 

Let Go of Expectations 

Well meaning phrases like “they would want you to be happy” can sometimes feel painful. Grief does not have a timeline, and healing is not linear. 

You are allowed to celebrate and mourn at the same time. You are allowed to laugh one moment and cry the next. The holidays do not have to look the same as they once did. They only need to reflect what you need this year. 

A Gentle Reminder 

If the season feels overwhelming, remind yourself: 

• It is okay to take breaks 

• It is okay to say no 

• It is okay to ask for help 

• It is okay to honor your loved one in your own way 

  
  

Grief changes over time, but love remains. Even in the hardest seasons, light can return quietly and gently. 

At Dearly Departed, we believe remembrance is an act of love, and healing is a journey that deserves compassion, dignity, and care. 

Here to Listen, When You Are Ready 

If you would like to speak with a care advisor, visit our facilities, or simply ask questions, our team is here to listen—at your pace, and in your time. 

This holiday season, be gentle with yourself. Allow space for grief and moments of peace. And remember that even in loss, you are never truly alone. 

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